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AUDREY TAM Obituary

AUDREY TYAU TAM has been described by her husband Ray as: THE WIND BENEATH MY WINGS She was born on Sept. 26, 1933, and was 90 years of age when she passed away from natural causes. Audrey was a 1951 Roosevelt High School graduate. She attended Colorado State College of Education where she received a Bachelor's Degree in Education. She then attended Columbia University. where she received a Master's Degree in Education. Audrey and Ray were married at St. Patrick's Catholic Church on June 27, 1959. They celebrated their 65th blessed and happy wedding anniversary this year. Audrey was a very warm and gregarious person. She had a beautiful, friendly smile. As a friend who viewed a video of her wrote: I thought Audrey was so beautiful and inspiring. She has a contagious smile. Her love shines so brightly throughout. In 1994, her husband Ray was elected and served as President of the International Academy of Trial Lawyers. As First Lady. Audrey was indispensable in helping her husband develop the CHINA PROGRAM during the Deng Xiaoping era, which assisted China in drafting its laws and developing its Rule of Law. Ray often praised Audrey: I AM WHO I AM, BECAUSE OF YOU Audrey was always at her husband's sideencouraging, supporting and loving him. They were an inseparable couple. Audrey was predeceased in death by her son Rodney. Besides her husband Ray, she is survived by son Russell Tam, daughters-in-law Julie Tam and Tammy Tam, and grandchildren Brianna Tam and Jonathan Tam. A Celebration of Life will be held on Tuesday, August 13, 2024, at Borthwick Mortuary, 1330 Maunakea Street - Maunakea Chapel, Honolulu. Visitation will be held at 10:00 am. and service at 11:00 am. Private Burial Service to follow.

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Published by Star-Advertiser from Aug. 4 to Aug. 11, 2024.

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Michele & Harvey Kaplan

August 27, 2024

Ray, we are so sorry to hear of Audrey´s passing. She was an elegant, lovely, friendly & smart lady. We always looked forward to being with and around her at IATL meetings and on many trips we took together. Our heartfelt condolences to you & your family.
Harvey & Michele Kaplan

Bob and Sally Hall

August 17, 2024

Ray - Sally and I were saddened to learn of Audrey's passing. She was such a special person. The joy and comfort she brought to all our Chinese guests in the China Program was but an expression and extension of her values - a warm, caring, loving and empathetic woman who saw dignity and worth in all humankind. How privileged we felt to know her and share time with her and even more privileged to watch the chemistry between the two of you. Electric. You both enriched our lives in ways we will always remember. We thank you for the wonderful gift of such beautiful memories, Our love to you in our sorrows and hope that life has more occasions to share with you in the future.

Bob and Sally Hall

ELSIE & MARTY LEGHART

August 14, 2024

RJT & Ohana...
Marty & I express our deepest sympathy.
It is an honor that we were able to meet Audrey and spend some time with her.
Please let us know if we can help you out in any way.
Much Aloha,
ELSIE & MARTY

Tony Choi

August 13, 2024

Dear Mr. Tam and Family,
Please accept my deepest condolence on the passing of Mrs. Tam. I know she was a very caring and loving person every time I saw her when I visited your son Rodney. She would always greet me with her bright smile and say hi to me. I will never forget her hospitality and grace. She'll always be remembered in my prayers. May she rest in heavenly peace and may God have mercy.

Milton & Susan Seligson

August 11, 2024

Our deepest sympathy and condolences to Raymond and family on the passing of Audrey.

Milton and Susan Seligson
Cape Town South Africa

Pamela Hall

August 9, 2024

Raymond,
Your beautiful wife was in my aerobic class for many years. I have such wonderful memories of her. I am so sorry for your loss.
Pamela Hall

Paul Sreenan

August 8, 2024

Dear Ray. So sorry to hear of Audrey´s death. I have many happy memories of Audrey through the IATL and she was such a great companion and support to you. I´m sure you must be devastated. I pray that you may be reunited in Heaven. Paul Sreenan. IATL.

Barbara Lack

August 8, 2024

Such a wonderful lady! I will never forget the wonderful IATL trip to China. Audrey gave so much!!! Her kindness will always be remembered

Celine Ching Takahashi

August 8, 2024

Ray and family,

I'm so sorry for your lost. She was your other half for a very long time, I know you will miss her, especially on holidays, but now she will be watching you from above. No matter what, she will always be with you.

Herman & Sally Russomanno

August 8, 2024

Dear Ray: Sally and I are heartbroken to learn of Audrey's passing. You were truly blessed to have such a beautiful wife. What a wonderful life you shared together. Ray, we are what we are in life because of our wives. What you have achieved in your lifetime is testament to what a fantastic wife and woman she was. We know this is a most difficult time for you and your family, but we hope it is of some comfort to know that Sally and I have you in our caring thoughts and prayers. With Deepest Sympathy and Love. Herman & Sally

Annette Rask Miller

August 6, 2024

Audrey´s warm smile and kind nature were a gift to all who knew her. Her genuine love and friendship with our parents, Lee & Bonnie Rask, was a treasure. A classy woman through and through. May she rest in peace. Our thoughts and prayers are with our Tam Family

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